An open letter to those who feel like they’re struggling right now:
Full disclosure, as I am writing this right now, I am laying on the couch after my mental health took a little dip tonight. And right now, I know I need to share this.
This is going to be a super vulnerable and open post for y’all. I am all up in my feelings today and got a ping from the universe to share – so you are getting all of me right now.
I want to start this off by saying that I have become hyper aware (and even a little obsessed) with the idea that life is supposed to be fun, joyful, and easy – all the time. And while I still fully believe that it’s true that life is meant to be this way, I have realized that it’s not meant to be all the time (I explored this idea recently in my last blog post that you can read more into here)
We are human beings who are living a human experience. Feelings allow us to be human. We are meant to feel all our feelings – the good, the bad, and the ugly mother fuckers. We are not meant to walk around pretending the world is made of sunshine and rainbows. Because it isn’t. Yet, I have been pretending it does.
I have learned however that life can still be really freaking hard, and really freaking challenging. We (I know I do), get really caught up in other’s social media highlight reels. They make it look like life is so perfect. No one is to blame here, I do the same thing. We share the good, the fun, the excitement; no one wants to share themselves struggling, crying, or shit talking to themselves. We are getting better at it, but we have been so conditioned to hide that side of us from others that it can be difficult to be completely vulnerable. However, I also understand the fact that if all we shared was what we were challenged or struggling with, I wouldn’t want to look at that all the time. I love being on socials when I am looking at things that are inspiring and that make me happy. So, I get it.
Anyways, I am just trying to say that social media makes us forget that life is life. It’s hard, scary, challenging, and FAR from perfect. But it also is beautiful, fun, and full of love and light. There’s a balance here. Sometimes I find it hard to see that balance in both states of feeling really fucking shitty, to feeling really fucking good. This is just a reminder that both sides always exist, it just depends on what you are perceiving in each moment.
If you are someone who is currently working towards bettering yourself, whether that be that you are on a health and wellness journey, and pure personal development journey, or an entrepreneurial journey – you will feel this. Every time you up-level it feels amazing, it gives you such a high. But then you reach a plateau and you feel stuck, you feel challenged again. And you think to yourself, “what is wrong with me”? You think that just because you are healing, that you are growing and evolving, that you’re not supposed to struggle anymore. But that is the furthest thing from the truth.
The struggles and the challenges are there for a reason. I know we hear this all the time and it’s getting annoying AF, but it’s true. The pain, the challenge, the struggle – it’s all teaching you something. It is there to guide you. It may be showing you things you don’t want, so you can be guided to clarity around what you do want. It may be showing you you need to slow TF down and take better care of yourself. It also might be just saying, HEY you are a human and you have feelings and that’s okay.
If you resonate with any part of this – read on friend – this is for you:
I know you are struggling right now, I know you are feeling challenged. I know you are thinking to yourself, “it’s not supposed to feel this way, life is supposed to feel easy”. You’ve been so caught up in chasing after joy and happiness that you forgot you’re a human living a life on earth. You have feelings. Life is not perfect. If it was, it would be boring AF.
You feel shitty because you don’t feel like you are where you should be. You question the decisions you made, wondering if you made different ones, you might be somewhere else, you might be further along. You see all of these people on social media living the life. They look perfect. You wonder why they are there and you are here. You wonder why they’re not struggling. But I promise you, they are too. We are all challenged, all the time. You just don’t always see it. What you see is the highlight reel. You see what people want you to see so you can perceive them a certain way. They don’t do it on purpose. This is something that is subconsciously ingrained in us. We don’t want to share our vulnerabilities, it’s scary. But I promise, we all have them.
We all have limiting beliefs that keep us up at night. Even Beyonce has these. It’s part of being human. It’s part of our divine journey on this Earth. It’s part of our soul’s journey. We aren’t meant to struggle per say, but we are meant to navigate this world that has been conditioned onto us by society. Society tells us we should do this and do that, because it’s easier when we have systems in place to follow. It’s easy and it’s controlled. I don’t understand it, and we don’t have to, that’s not the point here.
The point is that things are shifting and we are all realizing our power, but that’s what is scary! It feels unsafe, it feels uncomfortable, and it feels challenging to step into all that we are and all that we are meant to be. It’s not always easy to follow what lights you up in a world that has conditioned us to follow a certain path, and a certain life that was laid out for us. It’s a challenge. But that’s not a bad thing. That’s fucking epic! I don’t know about you but I would rather feel challenged than live a mundane life.
Yes you might have had a shitty day. Maybe you got into a fight with a friend. Maybe you broke up with your boyfriend. Maybe someone close to you passed away. Maybe nothing even happened but you are just feeling emotional AF. Whatever it is, it’s okay to feel it. It’s important to, for however long you need. But it’s also important to move forward. You don’t have to struggle. That is your choice on how you are perceiving your situation. And I am not saying this mindset shift will automatically change your mood, but I am saying without it you will remain stuck.
If you want to create your dream life, you have to think and act and BE different. But this also doesn’t just happen with a decision. It starts with one. But then comes the work, and that work is endless. This is the point. You need to enjoy each day and live in the present moment, and do the daily work. Embody now what you desire to create, embody the highest level version of you. This is where you will find peace and satisfaction. Not in the chase of the vision or goal, but in the embodiment practice every single day.
And that doesn’t mean that you will no longer experience challenges. But it means that you no longer have to struggle. Challenges and hard times come to us as humans to show us something, to teach us something, and to guide us in our lives. They will feel hard. They will knock us on our asses. But that doesn’t mean you aren’t growing and evolving, it means quite the opposite really. When we are challenged is when we grow, when we live outside of our comfort zone and our conditioning is when we evolve & heal.
If you are struggling right now, I am here to tell you, everything will be okay. I know it doesn’t feel that way, I know life just feels so fucking hard. I know you feel like you should be further ahead, like you should have it all figured out, like you should be making X amount of dollars working on the beach in your bikini. But it’s okay if you’re not. It’s okay if you feel challenged. That doesn’t mean that you are failing. You are worthy no matter what stage of life you are in. No matter what actions you take. No matter what you are doing. No matter how you are feeling, or what you are thinking. You are worthy because you are you. And if you desire change, you can have it and you can create it.
But I need you to know deep down that this is true. I need you to work on your thoughts and beliefs about yourself. I need you to remember your worth. You are inherently worthy. You were born for a reason. Your soul chose your body, at this particular time and space FOR A REASON. BASK IN THIS. You are meant to be here. You are meant to live the most epic life – you just need to make that decision.
Whatever you want is already there, now it’s up to us to go and grab it. What decision are you making today?